Comments on: Essay on “Not Rape”

By: rishab

rishab — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 02:15:51 +0000

jury guidelines are common in many types of trials. i don’t understand why in rape trials the “character” of the alleged victim should be allowed to be discussed at all – certainly not in cases such as the one described, where the consent of the victim was never at issue.

By: Laksh

Laksh — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 20:21:54 +0000

This post has been haunting me for a couple of days now. There is so much I could say but words fail me. Thanks for bringing this up.

By: Thoughts that linger | Musings

Thoughts that linger | Musings — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 20:20:31 +0000

[...] then file it at the back of your mind to process later. One of those things happens to be an essay Neha linked to in her post yesterday. I read it. I felt upset. I forgot about it for a while and then it [...]

By: Kavi

Kavi — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 18:10:27 +0000

Many a time, i wonder how it is possible to inflict such pain ( both physically and emotionally) on someone ! And when a strange emotion rushes in, words fail me..!

When i hear and see more of this, i wonder how much regressed as a civilization ! And every day, when acid is thrown or a simple innocence of children taken away, i wonder what the future holds.

And i wonder, what animals think of such so called ‘animal’ behaviour !

By: Aditya Rajaraman

Aditya Rajaraman — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 14:31:57 +0000

In a society such as the US, where the concept of gender equality is more than what is present in most parts of the world, the sordid tale comes out more often than not.
However, think of the thousands (I would not surprised if another couple of zeros are added) of women in countries like India, Bangladesh, Malaysia, where these things do not come to light. The instances when a relative gropes people, both boys and girls, and it is in the name of playful fun? I am not even sure that these people even know the concept of ‘Not Rape’.
The amount of suffering, long term psychological, that the victim suffers is immense. I have heard a story of a close friend who had such an instance when she was hardly six. The pains and the vague memories are carried even till date.
Being someone who believes in reason, I am stumped in trying to understand the reasoning behind it all. Human bravado, vain show of power, or just an insecurity with their own self that they have to impose it on someone, make them weaker and debase them to appear stronger to themselves?
An answer I will not understand.
Aditya